Cape Town – South African actress, Mona Monyane took to Instagram to open up to her followers about the lessons she has learned on her co-parenting journey.
Mona’s ex-husband, Khulu Skenjana, who is also an actor, is her co-parenting partner.
Mona posted a picture of herself with her daughter in her school uniform and listed what she has learned on her journey thus far.
“1. Be the peacemaker, not the aggressor
(This doesn’t guarantee that your co-parent will do the same, do it anyway)
2. Remember that your child has an independent relationship with both of you, don’t make them choose between the two of you
(A relationship can fail but a parent is forever)
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3. Choose what’s best for the child
(If your child loves you both, do your best to both be in their lives)
4. Be graceful in the face of adversity
(Clutch a pearl Sis, get a lawyer if you must fight but don’t be the one being all ghetto in the streets!)
5. Choose to walk away from conflict rather than make things worse
(No good comes from attacking the parent of your child because of your own issues with them)
6. Heal your own pain so you don’t function from EGO
(Heal so you can also work from a place of objectivity and maturity when dealing with the other parent)
7. Don’t make your drama with your co-parent your child’s problem
(Our children are not here to inherit our pain and negativity, get your act together for their sake!)
And MOST of all, because WOW…
(Because God can do ALL things)”
The actress also said that she decided that her daughter will grow up with her father – something Mona didn’t experience.
“As a mother who grew up without her dad, I made a choice that no matter what happens, my daughter will never have to suffer me trying to keep her from hers,” Mona said.
“I choose love and light above all the darkness. Even when it takes every ounce of my strength to do so.
“Because there is NOTHING I wouldn’t do for my princess,” she added.
Picture: Instagram/ @mona.monyane
Compiled by Junaid Benjamin